Developing Integrity

Developing Integrity

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Developing Integrity

Integrity

This January I have had the pleasure (and sometimes the pain) of reading articles, blogs and posts concerned with New Year’s Resolutions either directly or in general terms. Is everyone on a diet? The aim seems to be to ‘Spring Clean’ or ‘Start Afresh’ and whilst I have no objection to this sort of thing in principle, it seems rather a wasted opportunity when people often say “I make the same resolution each year…it usually lasts a couple of days” (or something similar)!

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Rather than wishing to be other (thinner, fitter, a better parent/colleague/friend…) we might use the period at the beginning of each year to look inward and focus on our individual integrity; by which I mean the state of being whole and undivided.

Re-grounding ourselves as the light comes back into our hemisphere and the seasons unfold, brings a coherence of purpose which will naturally lead to the right changes in our lives. So rather than focus on personal details we are able to develop solidarity with who we really are and though we may wish to implement changes, they will lead to wholeness rather than struggle.

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In  practical terms, I would say January is out, so far as real change and progress go. Most people are worn out after Christmas and New Year and many are depressed at the prospect of squeezing themselves back into the routine of their daily lives. Give yourself time to settle again before undertaking a thorough non judgemental self evaluation.

Non judgemental self evaluation is a way of getting in touch with who you are and where you in your life. It can help you move towards a healthier and more fulfilling way of being in the world and help you notice the things that are truly important to you, notice the gifts you have and appreciate the moment.

You will need to find a place to relax and where you will not be disturbed, so that you can give yourself the time you need and deserve. Ask yourself a series of pre-defined questions such as:

  • Who am I?
  • What did I want to be as a child or teenager?
  • What and who do I want to be now?
  • What current traits have I developed that I wish to let go of?
  • What positive traits do I wish to develop?
  • What issues are weighing me down the most?
  • What things would I like to change?
  • What topics or memories do I avoid because they are too troubling?
  • What are my dreams and wildest fantasies?
  • Which cause a sense of guilt, embarrassment or shame?
  • If I could make a difference to my life, what would it be?
  • What will be my first step to transformation?

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Setting oneself up with a series of insurmountable hurdles is not the point of this exercise. Choose one change to begin your journey

towards integrity and focus your energies on your first steps. Your goal might come from the answer to a question you have asked yourself, or you might feel your way to your right path.
Reaching your goals will only follow as you blossom into the fullness of your true self. You may become thinner, you may become richer but one thing is certain; you will be a happier and more fulfilled person once you are following your true path!

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