Reiki and Anger….
“Do not anger…..” – Why would there be spiritual wisdom in telling us not to get angry? It is difficult holding anger in, and if you have tried it, you will know that it can negatively affect your whole day. You taint everything with the moment that rubbed you up the wrong way, but why?
Our emotions are very powerful; they are a combination of chemical messengers, emotions and cellular memories. Have you ever stopped and questioned why you react the way that you do when you get angry? Part of it is learnt, either ancestrally or through your own experiential journey.
Anger is an out of control emotion; it is the signal that something is wrong and is upsetting your perception of being harmonious. In some it can stir violent reactions and behaviours, others may experience physical health symptoms such as headaches or internal pains, whilst yet others may seem unaffected.
If you find yourself in the first two categories, take note carefully: it is not bad to feel angry! Nor is it bad to react to a situation that has made you angry. But (and you knew there would be one), it is how you react that has an outcome on the centre of your wellbeing.
I am going to take you through a simple exercise to help you start creating more positive outcomes from your anger:
1. When you feel angry, slowly and deeply breathe in… and out several times to give you time to regain your control and also to help oxygenate your brain to help you stay focused on the moment in hand.
2. Pause for a moment – what is your desired outcome? Do you want to continue in a place of angst and animosity? Then go ahead and verbalise as grumpily as you like. You know how the story goes – you spend the whole day being grumpy or having everyone treading around on egg shells – not one for optimum office efficiency – or one for a happy home and relationships. There is another option. Breathe slowly and deeply again. How do you want to feel? Think of something calming, re-educate your body’s cellular memories, take back your control. You should now be feeling calm enough to make rational decisions.
3. Listen to your inner feeling that something is not right; pull that towards the sense of how you want the outcome to be. What can you do to make it right? Remember to keep breathing slowly and deeply so that you can stay positively focused and in control.
4. Feel better? Are you ready to act yet? Wait until you are ready – do not rush yourself. Be the person you want to be. Anger is just a message to let you know something needs to change – and it starts with you. You are the catalyst to make the positive changes you need in your life. Practise them: life is just continued practise of different challenges.
I know some things are not quick to resolve – they can seem to take an age to bring right – but choosing to hold on to your anger and forgetting to focus on your positive potential outcome is detrimental to your health and to those around you and will stop you from reaching your goal.
So perhaps instead of ‘do not anger’ we should strive to be its opposite – balanced, calm, harmonised. What would you call it?
Of course, that is not the only secret to Reiki and seeking our inner health and power. The next is ‘do not worry’. That is a story for next time.